Insecurity is a big thing.
Plus, as men, we get hit with rejection a lot. And, when you're up and coming, even the thought of rejection may send some soon-to-be kings in a tailspin. Essentially, insecurity is a hyper-focus on how you are perceived by others.
Fortunately, insecurities are the gateway to courage. This doesn't mean you'll never feel them again. However, you can learn to experience them in empowering ways. By supporting yourself to be liberated of hyper-self-focus, you can break free of the limiting trap of believing the painful description of insecurity.
1) Gut health.
Most of your serotonin is produced within your gut. This pleasant neurotransmitter makes you feel confident and relaxed. Unfortunately, inflammation in the gut will always create a lack of serotonin, leading to you being more anxious by default. On the other hand, a healthy gut means you'll be less prone to insecurities and more confident in how you see yourself.
Being dehydrated will put you on edge. It's incredible the difference being properly hydrated makes to your mindset. But, of course, water quality is also essential. The best filters are ceramic gravity filters.
Zinc, Magnesium, Potassium, Sodium, and Calcium — it's incredible how many of us are deficient in these minerals. Proper micro-nutrients make you feel calm and at peace. It's a straightforward way to bypass insecurities through appropriate care of your physical body.
Practicing observation of the anxiety that you feel while not being totally controlled by it is vital. You do that by labeling the emotion (insecurity, or whatever) then allowing it to be. By not trying to change it, your sympathetic nervous system can relax, which, when done repeatedly, deflates the emotional charge within the insecure perception.
Often our learned response to what we feel makes it worse. However, you can reframe your insecurities as excitement. This is a stepping stone to experiencing the courage to still move forward regardless of your insecurities. First, recognize the anxiety coming up, then label it as excitement. Finally, you can just think it in your head, for example, "I'm so excited now."
6) Reflexive relaxation.
Tension as a response only makes you feel worse. The more you tense up while experiencing anxious thoughts about yourself, the more you unconsciously tell your sympathetic nervous system to get upset. Instead, learn to relax your body as a reflex to the tension in your mind. Focus on relaxing the body, and emotions will follow your lead.
We've been taught or conditioned at an early age to identify with everything we feel. The result of this means that uncomfortable emotions seem a lot worse than they are. Reidentification gives you space to pause, step back and tap into your unchanging consciousness. It's very simple. First, relax. Then, stop thinking. Finally, notice your awake alertness that remains. Become aware of your own awareness, and each time insecurities come, return there and start identifying with that part of you that doesn't get taunted by anything you feel.
One of the most powerful and simple methods to deal with insecurities is to take care of your physical health. Clean your gut, detox, and ensure you've got good micro-nutrients in your body. Retrain yourself to experience the fear as excitement. Learn how to reidentify with your awareness instead of the anxiety. Relax body and mind while telling your sympathetic nervous system that all is well. Courage is within you. It'll be there while you are scared or self-conscious. You access it during the experiences, not by avoiding them.
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