Instant Charisma, and How to Do It Without Being Needy or Trying to Impress

It's Actually Easier

There's a very subtle difference between genuine charisma and trying to get attention. The former is powerfully attractive, while the latter will push others away.

It's all about giving value while maintaining your self-respect and not trying too hard. When done right, your date, buddy, or boss will find you charismatic, charming, and somebody of higher value within that cycle. Trying to get attention or impress will usually do the exact opposite.

1) Switch the dynamic from seeking validation to giving.

Giving validation doesn't mean that you submit or beg for attention. It's also not about putting anyone on a pedestal. Instead, it's about observing and allowing that person to feel valuable at that moment. You do this by focusing on how they want to be perceived. First, you let the other person reveal things about themselves. Then, gently mirror positive aspects back to them without any need for it to be returned and without the context of confirmation. For example, "That's great. You seem to be an open-minded person." 

2) Focus on connecting instead of displaying.

Don't try to demonstrate value. This only comes off as needy. Instead, focus on connecting. The difference is in how people feel around you. Either you're perceived as the smartest man in the room, or they feel like they're at their best when they're with you. The former is a disconnect, while the latter unconsciously makes you pivotal to their happiness. It's not about how you appear to them. It's 100% about how they feel about themselves while with you. This is a very subtle aspect of the game.

3) Aim to understand.

Most people are just waiting till it's their turn to speak. This is another disconnect. Instead, focus on connecting to what that person is trying to communicate to you. Make sure you're doing this in a relaxed and easy-going way. You'll stand out as a unique human who actually makes them feel profoundly understood, as opposed to everyone else who's trying to impress or be heard. This actually makes communication more effortless, as you no longer need to try to push your identity. Instead, it's about understanding what's going on for this person and who they are.

Key takeaway.

High-value communication is actually less effort than trying to impress others. The harder you try to be perceived a certain way, the more people will disconnect. So instead, switch the dynamic to being the one who bestows validation, based on the other person's active seeking of it. This flips the script from you being try-hard to becoming that unique human in their life that they look up to, respect, and feel like they can genuinely be their best around. Aim to understand who they are via simple questions and let them do most of the talking. Connect, and allow them to display their value. Contextualize everything in non-neediness by not making anything about a final outcome. For example, needy: "You're such an open person. I love that about you. We're so compatible." Vs. High-value: "That's great. You seem like an open person."

Charm on command.

Charisma and charm come naturally to high-value men. It's not as complicated as you may think.

Everything you need is already within you. It's mostly unlearning the programing that makes us forget who we're meant to be.

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