Have you ever asked a girl out on a date?
Did you make plans for the whole night, from the moment you pick her up to the moment you drop her off?
(Or take her to bed)
And did you get to feel the ecstasy, excitement and happiness of meeting a beautiful woman, only to get it all ruined when she decided to flake?
If that has happened to you before, or even worse, keeps happening ‘till now, it’s because you’re likely making the mistake that almost every single man makes without even realising it.
It’s not about the interaction you had beforehand.
Or how busy she is.
Or any kind of excuse that she may come up with to not go out with you.
(There are exceptions, of course, sometimes things happen and the girl may have a genuine excuse as to why she cannot come to the date)
But if that happens quite regularly to you, and the girl cuts the plan at the last moment, it’s because you’re following her up with a confirmation text.
(I.e. asking her if she’s still ok with going out/checking whether she’s still down to date)
You should never do that.
It shows her that you’re anticipating the date, probably more than her, making you look too invested.
Especially if it's the first date.
Moreover, it shows that you’re insecure and wonder whether she’d go out with you.
As a result, it declines her attraction and she loses interest in you, resulting in her flaking.
Ok, I get that Jamie, but what should I do if I want to make sure she’s coming?
While there’s nothing wrong with confirming a date.
It is how you do it and what you say.
If you’re ASKING her whether she’s still coming, it sounds weak and needy, right?
But what other text can you send to confirm if she’s coming, without coming off as weak or needy?
You can ask her “How are you doing timewise?”
If she’s still down to date she’ll let you know her plans, tasks, and time for the day and will make it clear that she’s coming.
But if she’s not, she’ll let you know and you will be ready to adjust your plans.
This works because it suggests that you’re curious about her day and what she’s doing, instead of wondering whether she’ll turn up and seek confirmation like some sort of secretary.
Send her this text next time you’ll date her and you’ll be better off than before.
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Stay strong and until next time, young king.